Wedding toast outline
Six short parts, a target time for each, and a complete sample to steal the shape from. Whether you are the best man, the maid of honor, a sibling, a parent or a friend, fill it in and you will have a toast of two to four minutes.
Blank fill-in outline
Work through the prompts in order and jot your notes in the last column. The target times add up to about three minutes.
| Section | Target time | Prompt | Your notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Opening and who you are | 20 sec | Greet the room, say your name and exactly how you know the couple. One light line, then move on. | Write your notes here |
| The couple (or the person you know) | 30 sec | Say who the person you know best is in two or three honest details. Pick something true and specific, not a list of compliments. | Write your notes here |
| One story | 60 sec | Tell one short story that shows who they are. Set it up in a sentence, give the moment, and end on what it says about them. Cut anything that needs explaining. | Write your notes here |
| Turn to the partner | 30 sec | Speak to or about the partner. Say what you have seen change in your friend or sibling since they met, and welcome them in. | Write your notes here |
| The wish or advice | 30 sec | Offer one wish or one small piece of advice, in a sentence or two. Keep it warm and keep it short. | Write your notes here |
| The raise-a-glass line | 10 sec | Ask everyone to stand and raise a glass, then say the couple's names. Say it clearly and stop talking when you have finished. | Write your notes here |
| Total | 180 sec (3:00) | Aim for two to four minutes. Add story time for a longer toast, trim it for a shorter one. | |
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A filled-in sample toast
Sample: a fictional toast from a friend of the bride, to show the shape, not to copy word for word.
Opening and who you are
About 20 secondsGood evening, everyone. For those who do not know me, I am Priya, and I have had the privilege of being Maya's roommate, sister in all but name, and unpaid moving crew for eleven years.
The couple (or the person you know)
About 30 secondsMaya is the person who remembers your mother's name, your coffee order, and the date of your worst day, and shows up on all three. She has always been generous with her attention.
One story
About 60 secondsThree years ago Maya called me from an airport at midnight. She had a flat tire, a dead phone, and no idea who the stranger helping her was. His name was Daniel. He changed the tire, then waited in the parking lot until she was safely home. She told me she wanted to say thank you properly, so she asked him to dinner. He said yes before she finished the sentence.
Turn to the partner
About 30 secondsDaniel, I have watched Maya get calmer, funnier and braver since she met you. You did not change her. You made it easier for her to be herself. Welcome to the family. We are thrilled you are in it.
The wish or advice
About 30 secondsMy wish for you is simple. Keep showing up for each other on the ordinary days, the way you did on that first night in a parking lot.
The raise-a-glass line
About 10 secondsPlease raise your glasses. To Maya and Daniel.
From blank page to a toast you can say
- Fill in the story first. It is the part everyone remembers, and the other sections get easier once you know it.
- Write each section the way you would say it out loud, in short sentences. If you stumble reading it, rewrite it.
- Read the whole toast aloud with a timer. Cut from the story if you are over, add a detail if you are well under.
- Keep it kind. Skip inside jokes the room will not understand and anything the couple would not want their grandparents to hear.
- Practice twice standing up, then put the notes on a small card. Hold your glass in the other hand so you are ready for the last line.
Want role specific advice? Read how to write a best man speech, how to write a maid of honor speech, or the father of the bride speech outline.
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